Since my process took a long time, I had a few first appointments. My first was with my doctor’s referred fertility specialist, then with the local fertility clinic then with an American fertility clinic.
After a year of unexplained infertility with my ex-husband, my family doctor referred me to a fertility specialist.
This specialist was nice and he explained the process we were going to undergo. He explained that there would be a series of tests on me then a test on my ex-husbands sperm to check for any defects. The tests would take a few months to schedule and diagnose so the process is not as quick as you may like it to be. These fertility specialists meet with people every day and are very good at answering any questions you may have. This doctor was the one who prescribed the fertility drug to stimulate my ovulation. Unfortunately, I did not get pregnant with the fertility drugs and my relationship with my ex-boyfriend was not strong enough to attempt conception using fertility drugs. Even though I miscarried, I was happy that I even got pregnant.
At the very least, I knew I was capable of getting pregnant even if I required assistance.
My next first appointment was with the local fertility clinic which I believe was referred to me by my fertility doctor. One thing I really remember about my first appointment was in the waiting room they have a photo album full of pictures of babies whom they must have assisted in conceiving. I went to the fertility clinic with my then boyfriend. Everyone from the receptionist to the doctors were all really nice. In the first appointment you go into a room with one of their associates. We all sit in an office with a desk and they just explain the process, the options and fees. It is a little overwhelming as your emotions are high because you are there to make a baby. Seeing the photo album of babies then meeting and discussing the processes makes it really official and emotionally exciting and frightening at the same time. It is nice though because it is something positive as opposed to all the negative experiences thus far trying to conceive. My first appointment seems so long ago and I went to this clinic so many times after that first appointment.
My first two in vitro attempts were performed at this clinic unsuccessfully and then I went to the clinic in the states to do in vitro with donor sperm and egg.
Even though I had to have my in vitro procedures performed in the states, I only had to go to Seattle for an initial appointment then only for the actual embryo transfers. All other procedures, ultra sounds and check- ups were performed at my local fertility clinic. They called my local fertility clinic their satellite branch. This was very convenient for me. It saved me from having to travel three hours for an appointment. Even though I only went to the states on four occasions, I was constantly emailing the nurses throughout my procedures.
I was quite nervous going down to Seattle for my initial appointment.
I went down on my own. I met with an associate that works specifically with out of town patients and I’m sure especially Canadians. She had a very warm, bubbly personality. She explained to me the process of the donor sperm and egg procedure which included donor choice, sperm choice and costs. She was also the one who refers the egg donor selection to me. Having face to face contact with her was important as she is the one who is recommending the biological mother of my children and she tries to match biological characteristics as much as possible. In order to do this, she also meets face to face with the egg donors.
After meeting up with this associate I then met with a financial advisor they have at the clinic. As I was prepared to pay the high fees it would cost I did not need to set up a financial plan. But it is nice to know that if I needed to, it was available. I think that if you are American, there is some financial assistance you can obtain as well, but I am not sure of this. The financial advisor was very friendly and thankfully I had enough funds to finance this process that I did not require her assistance.
I left that appointment with a little apprehension as this process of donor sperm with donor egg was actually happening. The wheels were rolling and there was no turning back for me at this time and I was on the road to becoming a choice mom. No more first appointments for me, it was time to just conceive.
Well I hope you enjoyed this episode on what it was like at my first appointments. If you have any questions, please go to our website at choicemomma.com and click on “Ask Me.” Thanks so much for listening and please join me on the next episode on “How much did it cost to do all these procedures?”